Giving marriage counseling to divorcees in their 20s makes me realize how divorce is happening frequently these days.
Majority of divorced couples decide to break up after 5 years of their marriage and therefore most of them have children.
How will remarriage be different when your spouse has kids from their previous marriage?
Mr. A has a lively personality. He loves to have fun and flirts with women even though he is not known for his capability.
A couple of years ago, he got divorced from his wife because he was caught cheating on his wife. His two children are raised by their mother.
Ms. B got divorced from her husband because of her credit card debt caused by her extravagant habit.
The child between the two was raised by her ex-husband.
We can’t generalize it but in many divorce cases, as in the case of these two people, the ones who raise their children
after the divorce are often not at fault with their divorce.
Those who want to take the custody of their children are often very responsible, loving and caring.
If you are divorced and don’t have any children from your previous marriage or have never been married before,
and want to marry someone, don’t exclude dating someone with children.
Divorced people who are raising their children have the following characteristics in common.
1. Sense of responsibility. People who have children are usually more responsible. Since they have children,
they make their decisions carefully and don’t live their life carelessly.
2. Stability. To raise children, they are financially and emotionally more stable.
Getting married with someone can be frightening and more so with a person with children.
However, marrying someone with children can bring two times of joy, love and happiness to your marriage life.
Your family will be more complete with children, the bond with your spouse and the children will be stronger.
The children will be the firm base for the longevity of your marriage.
