There is a saying: “Too much is as bad as too little.”

When something is excessive, it can be worse than lacking. But that does not mean being too lacking is good either.

This is especially true when it comes to dating experience.

And even more so if the person is a single man or woman of marriageable age who is already on the late side.

I introduced a woman in her mid-30s to a man in his late 30s.

Coincidentally, both of them had almost no dating experience.

In such cases, people usually say this:

“If one person is a dating beginner, shouldn’t the other person at least have some dating experience?”

That is why relationships between men and women are so subtle.

If two people connect emotionally, that kind of balance does not necessarily have to be perfect.

And in my experience, people with similar levels of dating experience and sexual experience tend to have fewer problems when they meet.

The two felt attracted to each other at first sight.

They talked on the phone for such long periods every day that it seemed the phone line might catch fire, and they said they met every other day.

But one problem arose.

Because they had found this relationship with difficulty, they became anxious that something might go wrong.

As a result, they were too cautious about everything.

There is nothing wrong with being careful and cautious.

But the problem was that the effects of that caution came directly to me.

After introducing the two, I practically became their dating counselor.

They called me constantly.

And from both sides.

The man, whose appearance was ordinary, worried almost entirely about his looks.

“They say women don’t care that much about men’s appearance. Is that really true?”

“Appearance is a matter of personal taste, so it is hard to say for certain. Still, you should make an effort in the areas you can improve.”

The woman also had many worries.

She said even a single word from the man bothered her.

“At first, he talked a lot about marriage. But a few days ago, he suddenly said there may be no need to rush. Why do you think his feelings changed?”

“Since you met later in life, he may simply want to date enough before deciding. Don’t worry alone. Ask him about it the next time you meet.”

“Also, at first he was the one who contacted me first and chose the places to meet. But at some point, I found myself calling him first. They say a woman loses charm if she is too proactive.”

“I have seen several women regret it after playing hard to get until the man turned away. Showing your heart is important.”

A few days later, the man called this time.

“We had been meeting every weekend, but recently she said she was busy and couldn’t meet. She isn’t seeing someone else, is she?”

“We do not introduce anyone else while a couple is dating. What did she say she was busy with?”

“She said there was a cousin’s wedding, a company workshop, and last week she went on a family trip for her father’s 70th birthday.”

“It just happened that she had something three weeks in a row. You have to trust her. If you cannot trust her, how will you date?”

In this way, using me as a stepping-stone, crying and laughing along the way, the two eventually entered their sixth month of dating.

I do not know what their future will be.

Dating later in life can make people more cautious because of age.

It can also be hard to break the prejudices and fixed ideas that come from experience and years lived.

In some cases, even when people know they are wrong, they refuse to admit it and stubbornly insist until a relationship that had been going well comes to an end.

Every person has a different story.

But the principle of relationships between men and women is the same.

Be sincere.

And be honest.