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Money doesn’t equate to happiness. You are not happier because you have more or less than others. I guess life is fair in this regard. Perfect marriage credentials don’t translate into a quicker or easier marriage.  

I found an interesting statistic. Couple.net recently conducted a survey among its members who have gotten married in the past 10 years to see how many dates they went out with others before getting married. The survey participants consisted of 305 members with a spouse index score over 86.7 points, and the other 305 members with a spouse index score lower than 58.1 points.  

The spouse index is a comprehensive index that cross-checks vertical credentials such as education, occupation, annual salary, and parental financial power, and horizontal credentials such as age, religion, and height. The result shows that the top spouse index group had an average of 9.8 dates, while the bottom group had 4.3 dates before they got married.

People with higher credentials have more than twice as many dates before getting married than those with lower credentials. This is because good credentials tend to draw more dating opportunities. However, this does not necessarily work favorably in getting married. Because for those who have more dating experience find it harder to make a decision on one person. Also, since they are confident with their credentials, they tend to be picky in choosing their partners. 

There was a man in his early 40s, a professional, who had been introduced to many ladies in the past 5 to 6 years while renewing his membership many times. One day, after checking the profile of a woman recommended to him, he said, “If I was going to settle with this kind of woman, I would have gotten married already,” but “I have mixed feelings.” 

He said that he now thinks that the women he met early on were actually okay however, if he were to settle with one of those women, he would feel resentful about the past years that he spent searching for a better one. I can’t fully understand him, but I can kind of see his point as well.

A relationship between a man and a woman can only work if they like each other. Why wouldn't there be someone in the world who I like and meets all my expectations? But the reality is that that person has to like me back as well and that is why it is difficult to get married. Instead of focusing on what I want, try to look at yourself from the other person’s perspective at least once, then you will see the change in your relationship.

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