This is the third time I am writing about this woman. Once in the early 2000s. Once in 2018. And now, today.

I do not think I will ever write about her again.

She was a Sunoo member in the 1990s. Born in the late 1960s, she was at the proper age for marriage at that time.

I do not remember clearly whether she met the man at a group meeting or through a couple manager’s introduction. What I do remember is that she married a man she met through Sunoo.

I met her again in the early 2000s. At that time, it was for remarriage counseling.

She said that although she had married the man she met through Sunoo, he had turned out to be different from his first impression. He had violent tendencies and no real ability to make a living. In short, she became completely exhausted, divorced him, recovered herself, and then decided to consider remarriage.

She had graduated from college. Her appearance was ordinary, but she had a smart and determined air about her. She was running her own business. It seemed she had a talent for making money.

She registered as a remarriage member, and we introduced her to several men. But things did not go well. Unpleasant episodes kept happening with the men she met.

Eventually, she declared as if making a final decision:

“I will never marry again. I will never meet a man again.”

And with that, she withdrew.

At that time, I wrote about her case on social media under the theme of “a woman who gave up the decision to marry.”

Years passed.

Around 2018, I met her again. By then, she had become the owner of a five-story building in a certain area of Seoul.

It seemed fortune had followed her in money. She had focused on her business and said she had been so absorbed in making money that she did not notice the years passing. Eventually, she came to own a five-story building.

But when I met her again, she did not look healthy. Her complexion was dark. She had no children. She was still alone.

When men gain financial stability, many tend to want someone by their side. Women can be a little different. When they have financial stability, some feel that being alone is fine. Then, when their health begins to fail or when their financial situation worsens, they begin to long for someone of the opposite sex.

She seemed to be that way too.

At the time, I told her that she was still young enough to meet a man as a companion. At the same time, because she had money, I also advised her to be careful. I introduced her to a few men.

It seemed that she simply did not have luck with men.

Coincidentally, among the men introduced to her this time as well, the one she liked turned out to have problems.

Some time passed again. When I spoke with her on the phone, she was no longer in a position to receive introductions. Her cancer had advanced.

I still remember the conversation we had then. Her voice sounded detached, almost empty.

“I think I traded my life for a building.”

I can no longer introduce her to anyone.

I leave her story as a case for singles who keep postponing marriage or refuse to marry.